The beautiful thing about life is that you can always change, grow and get better. You aren't defined by your past. You are not your mistakes.
COACH ¦ SPEAKER ¦ EDUCATOR ¦ AUTHOR
I am a certified Empowerment & Mindset Coach, NLP, and mindfulness practitioner - it's my personal mission in life to enable greatness in others. I help high achieving women who are on the edge of burnout from their busy lives of juggling everyone else’s schedules, who feel trapped in the life they have created for themselves, find balance, their identity and help them give a voice to their deepest desires.
I'm not defined by other people's perception of me or rather by what other people think I should be...but I've not always been like that!
Born a mixed race child in South Africa during apartheid, I was literally born a crime.
From a young age, I knew that it was dangerous for me to be seen by others, that I would be judged on what I looked like, not who I was as a person. I knew that I had to keep my head down and ensure that I didn't upset anyone or ruffle feathers. I knew that the best way to get on in life, was to give people the version of myself that made them feel the most comfortable even if it wasn't my truth.
Throughout my childhood and youth I was made to feel ashamed of my skin colour. Apparently my mixed racial genes meant that I was:
- not smart enough
- not clean enough to play with
- not pretty enough to date
- not worthy enough to succeed
I wouldn't amount to much in other people's view - had I listened to them and believed it, it would have become my reality!
Don't get me wrong, I did believe much of this for many years...these perceptions hurt and have left deep scars. They did affect how I saw myself and how I valued my contribution. Most importantly, they became the baggage I carried around with me for a very long time. It was exhausting!
But what it also did, was to light a fire in me which was determined to burn brighter and prove them all wrong.
Growing up and into my 20s, I spent so much time trying to fit in, please people around me and seek their validation...so much so that I didn't even know who I was. I felt like a complete fraudster. I did have lots of friends and did fun things but I knew deep down that I wasn't being true to myself...I was too afraid they would all judge me. What I also found was that although I was doing everything right, I still felt huge resistance in life, things didn't go as planned and most days felt like an uphill struggle, each victory was something I had to fight for.
My 'a-ha' moment came when I became a mother. It gave me the motivation I needed to get 'out there' and make my life awesome!
I want to be the role model to my girls that I never had.
My two little warrior princesses are my 'WHY'. They are high energy, bubbly and also, due to them being so young, they are always wanting my attention. They are both deaf and as such, have special needs which require ongoing daily support. Equally, I am a corporate professional who loves my job and the work I do in healthcare. I run my own business, transforming the lives of women through empowerment coaching. Add to that, I'm also a zumba instructor running weekly classes, hosting fundraising events and am an active member on the school PTA. Did I mention I'm also a wife to a crazy, charismatic, 'take life by the horns' kinda guy? Safe to say I have a lot on my plate. But I wouldn't change a thing...but I found that the key to life is self acceptance, self worth and importantly self love.
I want my daughters to see and know that they are loved for who they are. I want them to know that they are pure potential for ANYTHING that they set their minds to. I don't want them to ever feel like that little girl from my past.
I want to be everything to them...but I can't do everything on my own!
As a working mum, I know how hard it can be to keep all of the plates spinning. Some days it feels like
they're all about to come crashing down...and I just want to run into a cupboard, hide and cry,
perhaps with a bag of the children's cookies.
Sometimes it can feel like life is on 'WASH, RINSE, REPEAT'.
And I know I am not alone in feeling like this. Many working mums out there feel there must be more to life but
then you feel guilty for wanting more for yourself. You want the best for your family but rarely prioritise
your own needs. Resentment, fatigue and burnout are setting in and your spark for life is gone. You’re
exhausted by the relentless demands on you and you're holding on by a thread, terrified that it’s going
to break, right at the wrong moment. Am I right?
My journey has been long and I'm still finding ways to learn and grow each day but what I do know with absolute certainty is that I'm defined by how I see myself, by my mindset and by my actions! And if I ever forget that, then I just need to look at my two daughters to remind myself of my purpose.
And now I want to help as many women around the world to be their greatest self too!
Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside of you that is greater than any obstacle.
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You won't regret it - let's make your dreams come true!